When she finally clicked on it, she wished she hadn’t. It said I was not the woman for him, that the relationship was over, and to please send back the ring.
It said my belongings would be delivered tomorrow,” Spira says. Where’s the respect from someone who was devoted to you for two years?
“I sat there and my whole body started to shake.”Spira had to plaster on a happy face for a few days—her parents were renewing their marriage vows at a family party on the other side of the country and she wasn’t yet ready to tell anyone about the broken engagement. I pretended my fiancé had an emergency and couldn’t make it. She didn’t, couldn’t, date, even after many months. Disappointment ignites anger when she thinks about what happened. ” It’s scant comfort when people tell her that Berger dumped Carrie by Post-it note on .
Then I went to my room and sobbed in secret.” Once home, she cried every day for a month. “With email, you don’t even have a guarantee that the person got your message.”Saying good-bye is heartbreaking, and most of us are total jerks about it.
When, in 2005, she met The Doctor on an online dating site, Spira was positive she’d finally found The One.
“He seemed very solid and close to his family,” Spira recalls.
“That was very appealing to me.”She took it as a sign of his integrity. Eight months of exclusive dating later, The Doctor asked her to marry him. But first, they put their individual homes up for sale so they could buy a place together.
They went house-hunting together nearly every weekend.
The emerging social reality demands some preparation for romantic rejection, given its potential to shatter one’s sense of self. As a hopeful romantic, I decided to share my online dating stories with the world.As a pioneer in the Internet industry, I became the first on my block to post an online dating profile.Little wonder that hypersensitivity to rejection is on the rise, and it’s contributing to large increases in stalking behavior, especially on college campuses.More than 3 million people report being stalking victims each year, the ultimate measure of collective cluelessness about ending love affairs well.